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What Burnout Really Is Burnout is not just being tired. It is the exhaustion that builds when the demands placed on you consistently exceed your time, energy, and emotional capacity. It happens slowly, often without you noticing, until even simple tasks feel heavy and rest no longer restores you. Burnout is what happens when effort becomes constant and recovery disappears. You keep going, not because you feel capable, but because stopping feels impossible. What Burnout Feels Like Burnout changes how you experience daily life. You wake up already tired. Your mind feels busy but unfocused. Small…

Usually, two is company, and three’s a crowd, so how does couples counselling differ? Well, there’s always a shadow of a third person in every couple’s problem. Maybe it’s one of your parents when your partner triggers you by unwittingly imitating them. Maybe it’s your child when your partner takes older son Jimmy’s side when Jimmy wants something, or you take younger daughter Jane’s when she does the same (please substitute the offspring configuration and names relevant to you!). Or maybe, and often most painfully, it’s your partner’s lover who you only just found out about, or who’s just…

You might be thinking, “What a strange name for a clinical practice!” If so, I wouldn’t blame you, especially if you’ve been on the wrong side of a crow! Please allow me to answer the obvious question, then: what’s so special about crows? Unquestionably, crows are temperamental, territorial, and even hold lasting grudges that seem absurd from our point of view. Still, despite these traits, crows have a long and complex history with humanity and a positive reputation in some cultures. As someone who loves paradoxes, the paradox of the crow has particularly captivated me. It’s also one that’s…

The start of a new year often arrives with a quiet pressure. That pressure is around that the issues from the past year need to be resolved and this year is the year it finally happens! Even if you don’t consciously buy into the idea of New Year’s resolutions, it can still feel as though January brings an unspoken expectation to reset, improve, or finally “get it together.” For adults with ADHD, this time of year can stir up a complicated mix of hope and apprehension. There is the hope that this year might be different, paired with the familiar worry that it won’t be. Many people with ADHD…

As a somatic grief counsellor, I know in my body and mind that grief is unpredictable and shows up for us in the classic moments of a special holiday or date and also in the normal moments of daily life. It could be the smell of a blanket, someone’s voice, the quiet of sitting together, the taste of a soup or a feeling you have that awakens the memories. The rhythm of ordinary days continues even when remembering or experiencing a goodbye. In my own life, loss ebbed and flowed. I carry the grief of losing a sibling, my father, my cousin, grandparents, friends, and people I’ve walked alongside…

Every New Year we are flooded with motivation. This is the year we will wake up earlier eat better exercise more work harder rest more and somehow do it all without burning out. And yet by February many of those resolutions quietly disappear. The issue is rarely a lack of desire to change. More often it is the way we approach change. We Have Finite Energy and Time One of the biggest misconceptions about New Year’s resolutions is the belief that we can simply add new habits to our lives without removing anything else. As if time and energy will expand just because the calendar changed. In…

For many adults with ADHD, overwhelm isn’t tied to one specific crisis. It’s not always a major deadline, a big life change, or a single stressful event. Instead, it’s the constant accumulation of small things. Emails unanswered, tasks half-started, appointments to book, decisions to make, messages to reply to, laundry to fold, forms to complete, plans to organize. Thoughts that won’t quiet down. Even on days when nothing objectively “bad” is happening, your nervous system can feel overloaded. And when that overwhelm sets in, it’s easy to start questioning yourself: Why does everything feel…

We live in a world that celebrates speed. We demand faster progress, faster responses, and faster healing. Even our self-care often comes with an undertone of urgency: “fix,” “optimize,” “get back to normal.” Our bodies don't move at the pace of urgency. They move at the pace of trust. In my work as a somatic therapist, I’ve learned that the moments of real transformation rarely happen in a rush. They happen in the quiet spaces, when someone slows down enough to feel what’s here right now. It happens when the breath deepens, when the eyes soften, and when the body begins to recognize safety…

There is a moment that happens in almost every romantic relationship. Something small occurs. A delayed text. A strange tone. A comment that lands in a way you did not expect. Suddenly your chest tightens and your thoughts start racing. You tell yourself you should not feel this upset, yet you feel it anyway. The person you care about suddenly feels distant and unfamiliar. Your mind starts filling in the blanks. Maybe they are losing interest. Maybe they are disappointed. Maybe they are going to leave. Maybe they are cheating. Why Trigger Feels So Big Triggers in romantic relationships are…

Have you ever noticed how your body tenses up when you’re stressed — maybe your shoulders creep toward your ears, or your stomach feels tight? That’s your nervous system doing its best to protect you. Somatic Experiencing (SE) is all about helping your body release that stored tension so you can feel calmer and more grounded. Developed by Dr. Peter Levine, SE is a body-based approach to healing trauma and stress. Instead of focusing only on talking about what happened, it gently guides you to notice what’s happening inside your body right now — sensations, breath, muscle tension, even…