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There is a moment that happens in almost every romantic relationship. Something small occurs. A delayed text. A strange tone. A comment that lands in a way you did not expect. Suddenly your chest tightens and your thoughts start racing. You tell yourself you should not feel this upset, yet you feel it anyway. The person you care about suddenly feels distant and unfamiliar. Your mind starts filling in the blanks. Maybe they are losing interest. Maybe they are disappointed. Maybe they are going to leave. Maybe they are cheating. Why Trigger Feels So Big Triggers in romantic relationships are…
Are you feeling totally exhausted? Do even small daily tasks feel impossible? You might be experiencing neurodivergent burnout. This is more than just being tired. It happens when your brain and body are working too hard in a world that isn’t built for neurodivergent people. As a neurodivergent therapist, I want you to know: burnout is not your fault. Your brain and body are just telling you to slow down. Recovery is not about “fixing yourself.” It’s about resting, taking care of yourself, and finding ways to live that work for you. What Burnout Feels Like Some common signs of burnout include…
Artificial intelligence is transforming many industries, including mental health. AI chatbots and mental health apps promise instant support, coping strategies, and a sense of being heard at any hour. As conversations about mental health evolve, many people are weighing the pros and cons of traditional therapy vs AI tools when seeking support. You may wonder if AI can replace professional therapy or if human-led counselling is still necessary. This article explores the differences between AI-based support and therapy with a trained professional. It highlights the benefits and limitations of AI…
Are you a woman looking for a loving, committed partner? Someone who reliably shows up for you when you need them? Someone you can build a life, a family, and a future with? Are you -in reality- dating someone who cannot commit? Someone who doesn't want to be in a committed relationship with you? What has happened here? How do women who want a real relationship end up in a situationship? A couple of common ways this happens. (1) Sometimes a woman thinks she wants to casually date and tries it and then realizes after some time that she's actually a relationship person. She can't be casual with…
Every couple experiences moments of tension, misunderstanding, or distance. These struggles don’t necessarily mean something is wrong with your relationship — they often signal that something important is happening under the surface. Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) helps couples look beyond the arguments about dishes or schedules to see what’s really going on: a longing for connection, safety, and reassurance. 1. Recognize the Cycle — Not Just the Conflict When we argue, it’s easy to focus on the words or actions that hurt. EFT teaches us to look at the pattern instead. Does one of you tend…
Most couples don’t come to counselling because of one single fight — they come because they feel caught in the same painful pattern over and over again. You might recognize it in your own relationship: One of you shuts down when there’s conflict, while the other pursues and raises the volume. A simple disagreement turns into days of silence or resentment. You feel like you’re talking, but not really hearing each other. These cycles are exhausting — and they often leave both partners feeling lonely and unheard. Understanding the Cycle When couples get stuck, it’s not because they don’t love…
By Arezou Mirzaei, A Certified Canadian Counsellor (CCC), Registered Clinical Counsellor (RCC) and Psychology Instructor. Let’s be honest: bringing up the idea of counselling to your partner can feel like walking a tightrope over a minefield. It’s loaded. One wrong word and suddenly you’re in a defensive argument, feeling worse than before. But if you’re here, it means something in your relationship matters enough to fight for, not about. Whether you’re married, engaged, dating seriously, or even just figuring things out with someone, there are moments when you know something needs to change…
You are not alone in your struggles. Whether you're caught in cycles of overthinking, feeling lost in anxiety or depression, or wrestling with big questions about your purpose, there are many psychological models that can help you make sense of what you're going through. Each model—whether it's Buddhist Psychology, Psychoanalysis, Psychodynamic Therapy, ACT, CBT, or Internal Family Systems—offers a unique lens. In this guide, you'll learn how each approach understands six common concerns and discover insights to support your healing journey. 1. RUMINATION : "Why can’t I stop thinking about…
In a world that often celebrates independence and self-sufficiency, it's easy to forget that as humans, we’re deeply wired for connection. Whether it’s a heart-to-heart with a trusted friend, a shared laugh with a loved one, or a supportive space with a therapist, meaningful connection has the power to transform our emotional landscape. Let’s explore some of the key benefits of human connection—and why nurturing it can be one of the most healing things you can do for yourself. 1. Connection Reduces Stress When we feel emotionally supported, our nervous system responds. The presence of a safe…
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