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Break ups can be very hard. It is normal to experience feelings that change a lot. People describe an emotional "whiplash," with feelings changing every hour. You may miss her and romanticize what the relationship was. Then an hour later you may experience anger at her and remember all the bad parts of the relationship. This kind of whiplash is normal but can be uncomfortable. One activity that can help process through this grief in a more structured and comfortable way is the flashcard exercise. Get a ring of flashcards. On one side of the flashcard write something you miss about him. Maybe…

So, you have traits of ADHD (attention-deficit hyperactivity disorder). Welcome! In recent months the number of people reporting traits of ADHD in my practice has increased considerably. While a clinical counsellor cannot diagnose ADHD (you'd want to see a GP, psychiatrist or psychologist for that) what they can do is support you in your journey and treat your symptoms (sometimes alongside another treatment provider). ADHD will affect one person very differently from another. Whether you have all of the traits of ADHD or just a few here are 3 examples of ways in which seeing a counsellor can…

Finding yourself ruminating? Thinking about people in a negative way? Or having critical thoughts about your own behaviour? Thinking on things is normal. But if you are ruminating for so much of the day that it is getting in the way of being able to complete daily tasks like focusing at work or school, exercising, parenting or putting time into your friendships or marriage then the ruminating might be worth treating. Come in and learn what is causing the increase in rumination. Perhaps it's a feeling of being wronged. Increasing our understanding of our own thoughts and behaviour helps reduce…

Navigating life after experiencing narcissistic abuse can be an incredibly challenging journey. For many survivors, having others believe their circumstances is crucial as they often question their own reality and are learning to trust themselves again. Whether it was in a personal relationship, family dynamic, or even in a professional setting, the effects of narcissistic abuse can leave deep emotional scars. Understanding what narcissistic abuse is and how to heal from it is crucial for reclaiming your sense of self-worth and moving forward in a positive direction. What is Narcissistic Abuse…

Before becoming a medicine ceremonialist and just barely aware of the existence of 5-MeO-DMT, in a room with the view of a Costa Rican jungle I had my first experience with the sacrament. As a psychotherapist recently gone through a spiritual awakening, my worlds of psychology and spirituality are merging and 5-MeO-DMT has led to rapid shifts in my healing from undercovering repressed trauma to learning to open to states of ecstasy and oneness with the Infinite-Eternal-Divine in my daily life. Feeling the call to come back again and again to this medicine, I quickly recognized its potential as…

Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder (ADHD) presents unique challenges for adults, often manifesting in difficulties with attention, hyperactivity, and impulsivity. While these core symptoms are typically managed through medication, Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) offers an additional layer of support by addressing the broader life impairments caused by ADHD. Understanding Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) Cognitive Behavioral Therapy is a short-term, goal-oriented form of psychotherapy that acts like brain training for ADHD. The primary aim of CBT is not to treat the core symptoms of…

Being in pain, emotionally or relationally, is what draws many people to find a therapist. Currently, therapy is enjoying a cultural moment of popularity. You may have heard a version of “everyone needs therapy” or “therapy is for you if you have experienced childhood.” While mostly light-hearted, these prompts speak to those who notice pain in themselves and those around them. The Purpose Of A Process Group A process group is an unstructured, collaborative therapy. By joining a process group, you commit to bringing up what is going on for you and being present with others who are doing the…

Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD) is a debilitating condition that affects many individuals who have experienced or witnessed traumatic events. While there are various therapeutic approaches to treat PTSD, Trauma-Informed Stabilization Treatment (TIST) offers a comprehensive method that integrates principles from multiple therapeutic models. Understanding how TIST works and its benefits can provide valuable insights for those seeking effective counselling for PTSD. What is PTSD? PTSD is a mental health condition triggered by experiencing or witnessing a traumatic event. Symptoms may…

Are you feeling stifled in your relationship? Not sure if you are in love anymore? Having an increased frequency of arguments? You might be in the stage of your relationship where you're negotiating your needs with your partner's needs. Couples Experts Ellyn Bader and her partner Peter saw over 50, 000 couples in the United States and created the Developmental Model of Couple Relationships: A Positive Outlook on How Relationships Develop. In the beginning of the relationship it's common to feel like there's so much similarity between us, almost like we grew up together. The lovely bonding…

Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder (ADHD) is a neurodevelopmental condition characterized by challenges in attention, hyperactivity, and impulsivity. While traditional treatments such as medication and behavioral therapy are commonly employed, an emerging approach gaining recognition for its effectiveness in addressing ADHD is Internal Family Systems (IFS) therapy. Offering a holistic perspective that delves into the complexities of the mind, IFS therapy provides a unique framework for individuals with ADHD to navigate their symptoms and foster self-awareness, resilience, and empowerment…