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Ever end the workday totally wiped… even if you didn’t do all that much? You might tell yourself you just need more sleep. Or coffee. Or willpower. But here’s another possibility: your job might be draining you because it’s not aligned with your core talents or values. Let’s break that down. What Are Core Talents? Core talents are your natural gifts — the things that come so effortlessly to you that you barely notice them. They're not just skills you’ve developed. They’re ways of being that energize you when you use them. Think: Creativity and innovation Empathy and emotional attunement…

Have you ever looked around and thought, This isn’t where I thought I’d be? Maybe you imagined a different career path, a higher position, or a greater sense of fulfillment at this stage in life. Instead, you find yourself feeling stuck, overwhelmed, or questioning your choices. If this resonates, you’re not alone. The Weight of Expectations Many of us enter adulthood with a roadmap—whether it’s one we crafted ourselves or absorbed from family, society, or education. We set timelines: By 30, I’ll have my dream job. By 40, I’ll own a home. By now, I should feel successful. When reality doesn’t…

Did you know that many people are helped by seeing a Counsellor while going through developmental changes? In our lifetime we experience many developmental periods such as: Going through Puberty. Transitioning to Adulthood. Moving in with a Partner. Becoming New Parents. Empty Nesting. Caring for Aging Parents. Transitioning to peri-menopause and menopause. Transitioning to Retirement. Preparing for Death and Dying. These times in our life can be full of learning and change and so part of that is exciting. However, the learning curve can be so steep that things start to feel overwhelming…

Navigating life after experiencing narcissistic abuse can be an incredibly challenging journey. For many survivors, having others believe their circumstances is crucial as they often question their own reality and are learning to trust themselves again. Whether it was in a personal relationship, family dynamic, or even in a professional setting, the effects of narcissistic abuse can leave deep emotional scars. Understanding what narcissistic abuse is and how to heal from it is crucial for reclaiming your sense of self-worth and moving forward in a positive direction. What is Narcissistic Abuse…

Before becoming a medicine ceremonialist and just barely aware of the existence of 5-MeO-DMT, in a room with the view of a Costa Rican jungle I had my first experience with the sacrament. As a psychotherapist recently gone through a spiritual awakening, my worlds of psychology and spirituality are merging and 5-MeO-DMT has led to rapid shifts in my healing from undercovering repressed trauma to learning to open to states of ecstasy and oneness with the Infinite-Eternal-Divine in my daily life. Feeling the call to come back again and again to this medicine, I quickly recognized its potential as…

Being in pain, emotionally or relationally, is what draws many people to find a therapist. Currently, therapy is enjoying a cultural moment of popularity. You may have heard a version of “everyone needs therapy” or “therapy is for you if you have experienced childhood.” While mostly light-hearted, these prompts speak to those who notice pain in themselves and those around them. The Purpose Of A Process Group A process group is an unstructured, collaborative therapy. By joining a process group, you commit to bringing up what is going on for you and being present with others who are doing the…

It might seem like a stretch to think that experiences with your caregiver that happened as early as day one...or even hour one...of life, would influence how you might experience relationships as an adult. Those non-verbal cues like eye contact, your caregiver's tone, their presence (consistent or otherwise), whether they held you, hugged you, and so many other interactions all affected future relationship. That's not intended to sound ominous but more, to help you possibly understand how some of the strengths or maybe vulnerabilities within your relationships now, might be influenced. If…

Have you ever noticed that you don't like being alone? The thought of downtime or quiettime is overwhelming and you'll do anything you can to avoid it. Maybe you find you fill your space and time with work, friend, your kids...and when they're all busy, you still find places or spaces to be, so you don't have to be alone. This might mean a place like Costco, or it could just mean plugging in the vaccum so you can feel like you're doing something and you're avoiding any thoughts or emotions that might be felt in the quiet. Perhaps there's a relationship, an experience or a trauma you're worried…

Loneliness is a universal emotion experienced by individuals in various situations and at different times. Despite being in the company of others, this emotion can persist, causing internal distress. There are moments when this sense of isolation intensifies, leaving us in solitude and affecting various aspects of our lives. To overcome the grip of loneliness, it is essential to understand what can be done and how we can liberate ourselves from its clutches. Many of us have distanced ourselves from our true selves, contributing to the profound sense of isolation. Let's honestly acknowledge our…

Anticipating the holiday season can bring an array of emotions, thoughts and expectations. You might love family traditions, reflecting with joy and that warm tingly feeling in your body. You know it as a season where everyone is happy (well, mostly) and can't wait for jammie days, movie marathons, board games and probably a little (lot) of holiday food. It's wonderful! Alternatively, you might cringe a little as you begin to plan what the holidays could look like this year. Your kids are older, some of them may have a significant other and their time is split. It's possible the cost of travel…