Tanya Rolfe

About Me

Soul View Counselling 

I’m really glad you’re here.

It’s not easy to take that first step - the one where you open yourself up to the idea of counseling. Whether you’re feeling overwhelmed, anxious, stuck, or simply trying to find clarity in the chaos of everyday life, know this: you are not alone, and you are not a problem to be fixed. Reaching out is a courageous act. My job as a counselor isn’t to give you all the answers; it’s to help you reconnect with your own strength, insight, and self-compassion.

This page is for you to get to know me better, not just as a counselor with a clinical background, but as a person who genuinely cares about the human experience in all its messiness, nuance, and beauty

Why I Became a Counselor

My path into counseling was shaped early on by personal experience. I experienced a significant traumatic event in my childhood, one that deeply impacted how I saw myself, others, and the world. At the time, I didn’t have the language or support to fully make sense of what had happened, but I carried it silently, as many children do. That experience became a turning point in my life, though I wouldn’t realize it until much later.

As I grew older, the emotional weight of that trauma became impossible to ignore. I began seeking out ways to understand myself, to heal, and to break the cycles that were holding me back. This healing journey was not linear or easy; it was full of hard truths, unexpected insights, and deep transformation. But it also gave me something I wouldn’t trade for anything: a profound understanding of what it means to struggle, to feel broken, and to slowly rebuild.

That journey is what led me here.  Counseling wasn’t just a career choice; it was a calling born out of lived experience. I know the courage it takes to sit across from someone and begin to speak the unspeakable. My commitment as a therapist is to walk alongside others with the same compassion and care that helped me find my way.

How I Work

Counseling with me is collaborative and grounded in trust. I offer a calm, empathetic, and non-judgmental space where you can show up as your full self - even if you’re not quite sure who that is yet. I believe in meeting you exactly where you are and moving forward at a pace that feels right for you.I see therapy as a relationship. 

You are the expert on your life, and I see myself as someone who walks alongside you, helping to shine a light on the parts of your experience that may have felt hidden, heavy, or hard to face alone. These small shifts are often the beginning of bigger healing.

My Therapeutic Style

My approach to therapy is integrative and trauma-informed. That means I draw from several evidence-based models depending on your needs, while always keeping in mind how past experiences and systemic factors shape our present. Some of the modalities I work with include:

• Person-Centred Therapy: Grounded in empathy, respect, and unconditional positive regard. You guide the session; I support your process.
   
• Narrative Therapy: Exploring the stories we’ve absorbed or inherited, about who we are, what we’re worth, or how we’re supposed to live, and rewriting those that no longer serve us.
   
• Mindfulness-Based Practices: Helping you reconnect with your body, breath, and present-moment awareness. Useful for anxiety, stress, or emotional overwhelm.
   
• Attachment Theory: Understanding how early relationships impact our adult relationships, self-esteem, and emotional regulation.
   
• Somatic Awareness: Tuning into the body as a source of wisdom and healing, especially for trauma or chronic stress.
   

At the heart of all these methods is my commitment to relationship, the therapeutic relationship between us, but also your relationship with yourself, your past, your identity, and your emotional world.

Who I Work With

I work with adults and couples across a range of concerns. Some of the areas I commonly support clients with include:

• Anxiety
• Low mood, depression, and emotional numbness
• Trauma and complex PTSD
• ADHD and other forms of neurodivergence
• Life transitions - such as divorce, career change, relocation, or becoming a parent
• Cultural identity, belonging, and navigating mixed-race experiences
• Parenting struggles, especially in co-parenting or shared parenting after separation
• Relationship issues - including trust, boundaries, emotional safety, or communication
• Stress, burnout, and emotional exhaustion
• Feeling lost, stuck, or disconnected from a sense of meaning
• Whatever you bring into the room, it is welcome.

My Values

As a counselor, my work is shaped by core values that guide not just how I practice, but how I show up in the world:

• Compassion: Above all, I aim to hold people with warmth and non-judgment. I believe we all do the best we can with the tools we have.
• Authenticity: I bring my full self into the room. You’ll get a real human who genuinely cares.
• Humility: I don’t assume I know your experience better than you do. I remain open, curious, and accountable in our work.
• Equity and Inclusion: I recognize that systems (racism, ableism, colonialism, patriarchy, etc.) impact mental health. My practice is anti-oppressive, trauma-informed, and culturally sensitive.
• Collaboration: Therapy is something we do together. Your feedback, intuition, and insight matter.

A Little About Me — Outside the Therapy Room

While I tend to keep the focus on my clients, I know it helps to know a bit about who you’re sitting with. Outside of the counseling space, I’m a parent, a deep thinker, and someone who values quiet connection over noise and speed. I recharge through walks in nature and attending kettlebell classes, which combine strength-building with stretching and movement that supports both mind and body. I like to listen to music that resonates, cherish family moments, and enjoy relaxing with my two cats. My self-care doesn’t always look picture-perfect, and that’s something I’m honest about.  I try to live what I offer in therapy: being real, embracing imperfection, and making space for rest and reflection.

Final Words

You deserve to feel supported, respected, and understood, not just as a client, but as a whole human being. Therapy with me is an invitation to slow down, speak your truth, explore your patterns, and build something new. Together, we can hold space for whatever you’re carrying, the heavy parts, the hopeful parts, the parts you’re just beginning to understand.

Healing doesn’t always look linear, but it is possible. I’ve seen it. I’ve lived it. And I believe in it for you.

Whenever you’re ready, I’m here.

Warmly,
Tanya Rolfe, RCC