Jordan Gruenhage

I’m a Registered Clinical Counsellor and Canadian Certified Counsellor who primarily works with gay men through online video counselling.

As a gay man, do any of these sound familiar?

• I’m so sensitive and overreact to everything. I hate this part of myself sometimes.
• Why did I blow up at him like that?
• I feel terrified and anxious after talking with that person.
• I feel criticized all the time, and it hurts so badly. I can’t stop thinking about it.
• I wish I could just set better boundaries with him and stick to them.
• I can’t sleep or even start my day because I’m so overwhelmed sometimes.

There’s also the shame about thoughts and feelings that can feel doubly shameful to share with others in your life.

In private moments when you’re alone with yourself you might even wonder if it’s true that there’s something inherently wrong with you.

But in other moments, you might have some idea that your personal history with family, religion, or other people is affecting you negatively now, but it’s not totally clear why. 

It feels even less clear how to change negative patterns when it seems like you’ve tried everything.

Sometimes when you look back at your childhood, whether you knew you were gay or not, there might have often been a feeling of looking in from the outside, feeling different, and not feeling fully understood by those around you.

Now, imagine waking up with a clear mind and calm body.

Imagine feeling like you can make decisions about how you respond to your partner, family, friends, coworkers, and even yourself.

Imagine setting boundaries with other people and feeling good about it.

Imagine feeling free from that old hurt deep inside.

Imagine feeling that you’re truly okay just as you are.

As a fellow gay man, I’ve spent hours looking for a counsellor who I thought would understand me. The issues gay men face are unique, and it’s a relief to feel someone will just get it.

I help gay men understand their emotions better, heal from past trauma, and grow a sense of self-worth so that they can live fully as themselves in their relationships, work, and life.